The Scented Hound

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Mom

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Mom and I on my first day home with my new family.

I know that this is supposed to be a perfume blog, but at times it also serves the writer as a cathartic release and topics can sometimes veer away from the perfumed-centric. This past Friday, my mother passed away.  It was not unexpected as she has been battling congestive heart failure and her health rapidly deteriorated in the past few months.  She was ready to go and was fully prepared and looking forward to the end as life it was becoming increasingly exhausting.  At 87, she lived a good life.  Of course, on such occasions, memories come flooding back.  And it’s not always the big things in life that come to front, but instead those “slice of life” memories that will always live on.  So here are just a few random thoughts and memories that make me smile:

  • Mom ironing while watching “Search for Tomorrow”
  • Mom’s cooking I loved:   beef tongue (I can still hear the sizzle of the pressure cooker), her Christmas cookies (especially the Spritzes) and Swedish meatballs
  • Mom’s cooking I hated:  lutefisk (the Scandinavian folks know what I am talking about), salmon souffle and chicken soup with dumplings
  • Getting yelled at not to walk on the kitchen floor as she just got done stripping and waxing it
  • Mom sitting under the Oster dryer at the kitchen table
  • Watching her get ready to go out…with clouds of Aqua Net wafting from the bathroom down the hallway
  • As a teenager, coming home late to find her sitting on the living room floor playing solitaire.  The excuse was that she couldn’t sleep.  She was just a Mom wanting to make sure her son got home OK.
  • Getting my mouth washed out with soap on several occasions due to my smart mouth
  • Giving me a quarter to buy warm and fresh treats from the Hostess factory next to our church
  • Her driving me back from weekly confirmation class and listening to WCCO radio
  • Mom making breakfast with the radio on and the daily ad…”Northwest Orient…airlines”
  • Being under 5 and waiting for her in the lobby of the hospital while she completed her candy striping duties.  And afterwards getting a special treat of a chocolate milkshake at the hospital diner.
  • Waking up from getting my tonsils out to find her stroking my head and crying
  • Singing “It’s time to get up, it’s time to get up, it’s time to get up this morning…Rise and Shine” to get me out of bed
  • Helping her package up her Avon orders on the ping-pong table
  • Letting me decorate my bedroom with Snoopy decor
  • Liondy

    Liondy

    Saving my favorite toy, Liondy, and giving it to me as an adult (I still have him!)

I was adopted at the age of a little over one month,  and throughout my life I have been asked by many if I want to find my real mother.  My answer has always been that I have no interest.  I have a mother…a real mother.  And as she always said to me….”your special because we chose you to be ours.”  I’m glad they did.  I love you Mom.

The following is a link to my mother’s obituary in the Fargo Forum.

Author: The Scented Hound

Just a normal guy with the nose of a beagle!

45 thoughts on “Mom

  1. So sorry for your loss, Houndy. What a nice tribute to your mom! I have to ask – how did Liondy stay so clean and puffy because if he were mine, he would probably be missing an eye, his nose would be literally hanging with a thread and his tongue will be all mangled?

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  2. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing such an intimate and moving tribute to your memories of your mother. She sounds like a wonderful woman. I love that she gave you back your Liondy!! So sweet.

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  3. Your post was so poignant it made me tear up and want to call my mom — which I will probably do tonight. I’m sorry for your loss, Steve. You are in my thoughts and I send you my biggest and warmest e-hugs.

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  4. So sorry for your loss. Heartfelt hugs from NY xoxo

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  5. So sorry for your loss. Heartfelt hugs from NYC xoxo

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  6. Such a beautiful post. I am so sorry to learn of your mother’s death. Both of my parents have passed on now and I enjoy my memories of my Mom’s cooking and my Dad’s funny Tennessee sayings. Your Mom sounds like a wonderful amazing mother. You had many wonderful years with her. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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  7. Thank you for this lovely post, Steve. I’m sorry for your loss, and I find it so heartwarming that you are recalling those simple moments with your mom that make you smile. I lost my mom in December of last year. She was 87, like your mom, and many of the things you’re recalling are similar (or even identical!) to my memories as well. The photos of your family and Liondy are sweetness itself, and your mom’s obituary is a tribute to her. She sounds like a wonderful woman, and she certainly did a great job raising you to be the man you are today. Sending you a big hug.

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  8. So sorry to hear of your mum’s death, Steve, but it’s great that she was able to go in an accepting state of mind – that is something we could all usefully learn how to do for when our own time comes. I loved the bullet point memories of your childhood – so very different and American, with lots of ‘social history’ nuggets to savour. It is by reliving memories of lost loved ones that we really connect with them after they’ve gone, like in that poem ‘Death is nothing at all’, about the person having slipped into the next room.

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  9. Thank you for your post. Sorry that your mom passed. Thanx for including us in remembering the things you loved, its helps others who miss their moms.

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  10. So sorry about your loss. I’m glad you have do many good memories to remind you of your mom.

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  11. Very sorry for your loss Houndie. I’m sure your Mum lived a happy life and 87 years is an impressive life span I have to say. She definitely will be loved forever and always remembered as cheerful and happy

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  12. So sorry for your loss, Steve. It’s such a beautiful post; I could feel your love for her and, of course, her love for you. Isn’t it wonderful that so many lovely memories are with you? Through them, every step of your life, she will be with you in everything you feel or see. By the way, chicken soup with dumplings actually sounded pretty good. 😉 You are in my thoughts. Big hugs.

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  13. Dear Steve, I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your warm memories with us: it allowed us to see your mom through your loving eyes. Take care of yourself and your loved ones and allow yourself to grieve as long as it’s necessary.

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  14. Hi Steve. This was a lovely post from the heart and I’m really sorry for your loss. Mums are to be cherished and you’ll have her with you always. Thinking of you and internet hugs x x

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  15. So very sorry to hear about your Mother. A Mother’s love and devotion is such a blessing and as you have written, the many details of that very special love are never forgotten. ..you just keep remembering more and more. Wishing you many of these memories as your Mother continues to live in your heart. Grace

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  16. Your mom sounds wonderful, than you so much for sharing your memories of her. I am sorry for your loss!

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  17. Such a beautiful post, my dearest Hound. Your loving memories were so moving but I almost teared up at the part regarding how you’ve always had a “real mother.” She sounds like such a loving, wonderful, and kind person. I’m so sorry for your loss, my dear. If you ever need anything or just to talk, I’m always here for you. xoxox

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  18. Heya S,
    Losing Mum’s is fraught. Great loving post of memories so real and vivid.
    Hug,
    Portia x

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  19. What a lovely tribute to your Mother. I’m sorry for your loss. I laughed about the Morning song, my Grandmother used to sing that to us and I sang it to our sons. I love Chicken and dumplings, my sons not so much. I lovd seeing your Mother through your Heart, she was an Aazing Woman.

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  20. Oh, Mr. Hound.
    Bar-oooooooooo!
    That’s the sound my favorite dog makes when she is sad, and now it is the sound of my heart breaking a little bit. Thank you for sharing thoughts on your Mom’s passing. Adoption is important in my family too. “We chose YOU” is an important message that we share.

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  21. My sincerest condolences go out to you during this difficult time. It sounds like you were blessed to have a lovely mother and a wonderful childhood. My mother used to sing the same song to me in the morning. I didn’t appreciate it then, but I do now.

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  22. I am completely heartbroken for you just reading this, Steven. Your mother sounds like the most wonderful woman in the world. Thank you for sharing the obituary so that we could learn more about her- I made a small donation to the Hospice of the Red River Valley in honor of a fellow Wii bowling lover. I will be thinking of you- please, please don’t hesitate to lean on a Virginia friend if you’re feeling up to it.

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  23. What a beautiful post, and photo. I’m sad for your loss but glad you had each other for so many good years. It’s still a blow. I’m sorry.

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